Monday 31st October 2016
I used to get told the saying as a kid that “sticks and stones may break my bones but names would never hurt me”. However I think that saying is completely untrue.
I found it very easy to believe it when people called me stupid, an idiot, a loser – anything that was meant to hurt my fillings usually did.
If I think about it now, a broken bone would have been a lot less painful because some of the names I have been called in the past I have carried them around and believed them for years – longer than it takes a bone to heal.
I don’t know why but when I am given a complement I find it so much harder to believe. I think we are conditioned to believe the bad stuff and ignore the good.
I have decided that I need to turn this situation around and start believing and accepting the complements and rejecting the insults.
However I am the worlds worst at throwing insults – mine are normally done in jest and it’s something we laugh at but, even so, I think I need to start changing and stop doing it anymore.
Afterwards I have thought about it and feel guilty hoping that the person hasn’t taken offence. I do find I end up spending most of my time apologising. I don’t always think before I speak that’s my problem!
I think the words that come out of our mouths are really powerful. We can do so much harm with what we say, we can also do so much good too.
From now on I plan on speaking good. But I think my jesting will be a really hard habit to break.
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